BOYS AND EMOTIONS

Verse 1]
What’s wrong with boys that
We can’t admit
It’s okay to talk, you
Don’t need your fists
It’s alright to feel things
But that’s something we don’t permit, yeah
If you need a hug, then
I’ll give you it

[Pre-Chorus]
When we’re young, they say to keep it all inside, all inside
When the boys are blowing up, we wonder why
Yeah, we wonder, yeah, we wonder why

[Chorus]
Boys with emotions
Trying not to show it
Leave it unspoken
We’re all a little bit broken
Boys with emotions
Trying not to show it
Keeping it in, don’t wanna admit
We’re all boys with emotions

[Verse 2]
Forget what your dad said
Put it out of your head
It’s okay to cry and
It’s okay to vent
If you don’t let it out
The monster will eat you instead, yeah
The hurt that you’re holding
Let it out of your chest
[Pre-Chorus]
When we’re young, they say to keep it all inside, all inside
When the boys are blowing up, we wonder why
Yeah, we wonder, yeah, we wonder why

SONG BY FELIX SANDMAN

Two years ago,I had to change my kids to a new school and before kids could be accepted in,they had to be tested to ascertain the class they could fit in . My son was tested and was found to be deficient and didnt do too well. So right in front of my son and I,the school owner sent for two girls and were asked to read a text and they did so beautifully,I noticed tears ran down my son’s cheek and instantly the lady berated him for crying in front of two girls and how it’s a shame. My son sulked all the way home ,I understood he felt embarrassed,felt he had let me down,I held him and reminded him he could do better in his new school and it was ok to cry if he felt like and his proprietress was wrong to berate him. He is presently doing so well in school now.

Our societal expectations prevents boys from developing emotionally,this kind of condition programmed into boys at a tender age is the reason why boys are not emotional.

Professor Niotre Way says ” it’s our culture that distorts boys natural capacity for empathy and emotional intimate friendship.

Emotions is part of our make up as human beings,we have a right to express fear, excitement,joy,anger,anxiety,laughter and sadness. Why do we demand that certain emotions shouldn’t be expressed by the male folks, which is trickling down to boys.

Do we really understand the quatum damage of repressed emotions in boys????

EFFECT OF REPRESSED FEELINGS IN BOX

1- Less empathic.

2- Vulnerable to sexual abuse.

3-Aggressive.

4-Behavioural disorder.

5- Depression.

6-Triggers violence.

7-Lack relationship skills.

8-Lead to drugs and substance abuse.

9-Not being true to their feelings.

10-Sucidal.

HOW BOYS CAN EXPRESS THEIR FEELINGS……

1- Teach them to understand and accept and manage how they feel.

2-Listen when they share how they feel.

3-Let them see you express and manage your own emotion.

4-Allow him to cry.

5-Stop shutting him down when he is trying to express his emotions.

 

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