BOYS AND PORN

Recently three young children,two boys and one girl presumably ages between 11-9 engaged in 3some sex together while videoing the act. The girl who seems to be the eldest was the person who positioned the phone camera and directed the boys on the sex position to take up. It was clear from the video these kids were exposed to internet porn and we’re practicing what they had seen

The coronavirus pandemic has promoted online education and an avenue for social interaction,so more and more boys are on the internet more often,which is given them more access to porn sites easily.

During my last boyslivesmatter conference,I gave out questionnaires to enable me assess the boys on their view on porn and it was a shock for me to see that boys age 10-17 have been exposed to pornography.

It’s clear that lots of boys are hooked on porn already especially during this pandemic.Ede Obika founder of Save The Boy Intiative said: more and more boys are bored and taking solace in feasting on porn.

Statistical findings by Oyedunni Sola Arulogun,Ifeyinwa Arinze Ogbu,Issac Oluwafemi Dipeolu stated that 32% of internet users in Nigeria are children and teenages within the ages of 7-18 years old.

In their contribution (Markey and Markey) noted the computer age has brought with it much access to pornographic materials

Subomi Plumptre in her article ” Nigeria we ve’ got a sexuality problem” revealed the growing trend of young persons who are indulging in porn and a relative interest in rape porn. There are so many rape porn videos on the internet space pepetrated by young men.

Pornography has a huge negative impact on the brain, author of “Your Brain on Porn” said in his book that ,”if you chronically over stimulate yourself your brain may start to work against you triggering porn addiction.

EFFECT OF PORN ON BOYS

  • Distorted view about sex
  • Seeing girls and women as sex objects to be used
  • Excessive masturbation
  • Phone addiction
  • Sex addiction
  • Erectile dysfunction
  • Decrease social interaction
  • Practicing violent sex
  • Leads to rape,gang rape and porn rape
  • Depression
  • Sleep deprivation
  • Eating disorder
  • Loss of interest in learning and school activities
  • Mental fatigue

SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS OF PORN ADDICTION IN BOYS

  • Spending time alone in the room
  • Mood change
  • No longer interested in interacting with others
  • Excessive long time in the bathroom
  • Phone addiction
  • Secrecy
  • His language is filled with sexual words
  • Exhibiting sexual behaviour not appropriate to his age
  • Viewing multiple porn sites
  • Masturbates in public
  • Interest in gang sex
  • Accusations of sexual harrassement and bullying

FIVE WAYS TO PREVENT BOYS FROM PORN

  • Install block filters against porn on all phones,computers and televisions.
  • Regulate the use of cell phones at home especially at night.
  • Install parental control on computers and televisions.
  • Watch the Calibre of friends your son associates with.
  • Most importantly talk to your kids about the dangers of porn and expose them to sex education.

I have had to have a conversation with my son on watching films that parade sex and how awful it is . If per chance his little friends have stumbled on it and they re talking about it,he should excuse himself because such exposure pollutes his soul and spirit.

So many men from childhood have been hooked on porn so badly that it has messed up their relationship,marriages,social life and work life.

It’s so important to constantly mornitor your boys and keep having honest open conversations with them.

There have been stories of young men and older men who have quit pornography. So there is hope,if you suspect your boy has been exposed,it’s time to have an honest conversation and it’s dangers. You may want to seek professional counsel to help your deprogram his thoughts away from porn.

A broken boy is a broken man,boys and porn don’t mix.

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